I have been deep deep deep in editing of my own novels and those of my critique partners, specifically romance/erotica. My own writing style borders on the edge of erotica, so it stands to reason I should work with those authors to have my novels edited-critiqued.
One thing I noticed right away is that some authors use A LOT of anatomical references in their sex scenes. Words like: "flare of the glans", "areola", "hymen", the ever popular "clitorus", "labia", "pussy", and "vulva" (My kid once heard the word "vulva" from somewhere and asked Dad what's a vulva?).
Now I don't know about y'all, but I would rather not listen to anatomical references when I read/write/edit a sex scene. I personally feel these scenes are about chemistry, arousal, passion, desire, (sometimes love) and the blissful euphoria of a satisfying union between two or more partners who actually care about each other.
I think these scenes sound sterile, goofy, even vulgar and unreal, when we start spouting off scientific terms in relation to erogenous zones.
Here's an example of my own particular perversity, a scene where I edited out the anatomical language from another author's book:
Before my edit: "Liquid fire pulsed in her nipples, pussy and clit"
After my edit: "Liquid fire pulsed across her nipples and down between her inner thighs to the place where the burn of her swollen sex was near unbearable"
Not one single piece of anatomy is named apart from "nipples", and yet we are all able to understand perfectly clear what this woman feels and where she is feeling it. I generally don't need to name off all the little fleshy parts or use any vulgar language to create arousal.
I realize there is more than one way to skin a cat, and I have enjoyed many a novel that delighted in the use of such vulgarities. But I chose not to write that way for my own novels. Is it a preference thing? Maybe. But I bet the majority agrees with me on this point.
In conclusion, I urge authors to carefully consider the use of anatomical language in an intimate scene. Try to edit it out when you can. Focus on the chemistry leading in, the heat of the moment. Write around the mechanics of flesh to infuse the act with passion and arousal.